WHAT ARE THE BEST THINGS ABOUT THE PROFESSION OF A STRIPPER?

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , , on May 23, 2018 by tiltdiary

The best thing about dancing is that I get to dance, express. With every stage I take or every private dance I do I get the chance to make my audience feel. I can touch people, bring them to life, make them feel something that they buried deep inside, wake hidden desires and spark curiosity about themselves. This applies to men and well as women (the club I work at has a mixed clientele, men, women, couples)

The other thing I really like about dancing is that I choose who I talk to, who I spend time with, or who I dance privately for. At the club that I work at there’s no pressure from management to ask for private dances if I don’t want to. It is entirely up to me who I share my conversation and energy with. 

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HOW I BECAME A STRIPPER 

Posted in Stripper Secrets, Tilt the Book with tags , , , on May 22, 2018 by tiltdiary

 When I moved from Europe in 1998 to the US I started working as a fitness instructor teaching mainly yoga and Pilates. In 2003 one of my yoga students handed me an article about Sheila Kelly teaching pole dancing to women as a form of fitness. I was very interested and decided in 2005 to take classes at S-Factor and later I took teacher trainings for pole dancing to ad it to my fitness repertoire. I have been teaching pole dancing, exotic dance, and lap dancing ever since. 

In 2008 the economy took a hard hit. The first thing people would cut was their private fitness instructor. My family was struggling financially so my husband and I decided to steak out some high end strip clubs. After all, I studied performing arts in Stuttgart, Germany and had pursued my acting career in Los Angeles as a SAG actress for a decade now, and I was sure I could dance for dollars and save our American Dream. It seemed like a no brainer. I thought I had all the skill and training to take matters into my own hands and bring in enough money for us to live more comfortably. We did a lot of research and after an audition at a fully nude club I started working there. Little did I know that dancing was just about 30% of the job. My journey of becoming a professional stripper was at the very beginning as I learned to navigate through the maze of this secret profession of mine. 

I have been dancing ever since but only stayed at the fully nude club for fourth months. My book “Tilt Diary of a Virgin Stripper” details my experiences and challenges at this particular club and how everything changed with me becoming a professional exotic dancer. 

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WHEN YOUR GIRLFRIENDS WANT TO BECOME STRIPPERS

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , on May 21, 2018 by tiltdiary

I get these requests all the time. When a woman somehow finds out that I am a stripper by night, she all of a sudden becomes my best friend — well, at least for the duration of her fantasy trip. She will ask me to take her along, she wants to dance with me at my club. She wants to work a Saturday night shift with me, yeah, she wants to jump right in on a top weekend night when the club is packed. She dreams about her moment of fame and how stripping will get her out of financial trouble while sexually invigorating her. Often, this type of woman is not even equipped with the stamina it will take to walk in high heels for just an hour not to mention survive a six hour night shift on the pole in them. She has no stamina, often never danced — except the ballet lessons she was forced to take when she was three years young, nor does she have any current workout routine. But she thinks everybody can work as a stripper. Because stripping seems to have the last resort job image for any woman who can’t do anything else. And if I’ll put in a good word for her with management she won’t even have to audition to work at my club. She can just show up whenever she wants because she is so irresistible. And of course, she will be naturally a top income earner from the get go … she will just know how to navigate the strip club … because she is a natural. Men will throw themselves at her.
I hate to break it to you ladies, but stripping is one of the most difficult profession to get into and stay into. Many try but few succeed.

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WHY I AM A STRIPPER

Posted in Adventures of Jones with tags , , , , , , , , , on May 20, 2018 by tiltdiary

Wouldn’t you do whatever it takes to feed these guys … of course, species appropriate, all organic diet … no commercial crap food …
Because when you love you only give the best.

Photo by JMichaelHPhotography

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HOW OFTEN DOES ASSAULT HAPPEN IN THE STRIP CLUB?

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , on May 19, 2018 by tiltdiary

I think I cannot remember a single shift where I did not have an unpleasant or I call it a challenging experience. I think it’s the nature of the profession. Although, the law protects us, and it is illegal to touch us dancers nobody really follows the law. We get groped, slapped on the derrière, people say inappropriate things all the time … And when you remind customers that they cannot touch you it will be always blamed on you, “I thought you wanted me to slap your ass,” or, “Well, I am a gentlemen but you just bring it out in me.” In the mind of the customers it’s your fault if you’re violated. And it’s not just men who grope us. Women do it too. 

You have to grow a thick skin, and you have to learn how to protect yourself, escape the slap, and move quickly away to avoid and “accidental” kiss or lick. It is about walking a fine line between protecting yourself and wearing your tough stripper shield without becoming numb or bitter. You have to have insights, understanding, and compassion for humanity in order to survive the strip club and be a successful exotic dancer. 

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HOW A STRIPPER DEALS WITH UNPLEASANT ENCOUNTERS 

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , on May 18, 2018 by tiltdiary

Yes, I have been violated, treated badly, and disrespected while dancing. But I have had also many wonderful experiences as an exotic dancer. I guess it’s like in every profession. The Harvey Weinsteins are praying on you, except that when you get violated as an exotic dancers it’s your own fault because you choose this profession and you’re asking for it wearing skimpy clothes and walking around in sexy lingerie. If I would take my sexual assaulters to court society would laugh at me. But if Angelina Jolie takes her violator to court the world is appalled. The world differentiates between regular women and strippers. So if anything bad happens to a stripper it’s her own fault. Meanwhile, we are all just women trying to make a buck, trying to feed our kids, helping our families to live better lives, pay our way through college … But society doesn’t see it that way. My passion is to make people understand that dancers are very sensitive human beings, sometimes, even more sensitive than “regular women.” We have feeling too. Yet, in order to survive in this profession, we have to be tough enough to brush it off and continue to dance …

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HOW STRIPPING AFFECTS MY LIFE AND MY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , on May 17, 2018 by tiltdiary

Without stripping I would not be who I am today. I was young, innocent, full of trust and romance. Then I started dancing, and I learned and still learn. The insights I have gained about men, women, relationships, and marriage are mind blowing to me. I see humanity in a very different light now. I’ve grown up and learned to watch my back, not trust anybody, yet, I’ve become more compassionate. No matter how ugly and mean someone is they most of the time don’t do it on purpose. I’ve learned to dive into the world of a despicable man and felt compassion, even understanding instead of just judging.

What I know has affected my relationship with my parents (in a very positive way), my sister, my closest family members, and my friends. I’ve become more independent and strong, yet, deep down I am still a hopeless romantic and can still get hurt easily under that thick stripper shell. Dancing has changed everything for me, and I am glad I’ve had the courage to go for it. I am glad I am still dancing despite thinking of quitting daily. Dancing can wake you … not just physically and emotionally … also psychologically. It has opened my eyes and taught me what I needed to see. I’ve become more realistic … For example I know today men don’t change. Most people don’t change … You waste less time hoping …

In general, I avoid telling people that I am a stripper. It always causes problems, although, I am dressed “appropriately.” But when the cat is out of the sack they treat you like the third kind. For example, a long time private physical therapy and yoga client of mine happened to find out that I worked a few nights a week as a stripper. He was a student of mine for over a decade but once my secret profession was revealed he jumped at me, hugged me way too tight (not a friendshiply hug but a sexual, squeeze-my-boobs against him hug) and asked me, “Is it OK if we kiss?” I was shocked and almost fainted. I wasn’t prepared for this and didn’t wear my invisible stripper shield. I replied, “No it is not OK. I know your wife!!! Back on the mat into downward facing dog please.” I didn’t have any incidences with him for about ten years previously.

Then my doctor found out that I don’t just teach yoga and Pilates. Me being a pole dancer and working in a strip club — this was revealed because of obvious bruises on my legs that happen when we train new tricks while the body learns to adjust to the pole — made him think it was OK to reveal that his wife wasn’t giving him sex anymore. That he was sexually deprived. First, I cut him some slack. But the sexual innuendos kept coming when I would visit, and he made several physical moves on me as well as trying to kiss me. Well, I ditched him as a doctor, although, he was a good in his profession, but not good enough to take the sexual assault with it.

It seems to have an effect on my female friends too. They think you’re the abundant well of cash. They expect you to pay for everything you do with them, buy them lunch, coffee, make them gifts … nothing ever comes back. One of my “friends” who asked me to pay for her dog’s vet bill (yes I do have a soft spot for helping animals) told me, “You can just work an extra night if you need more money.” Yeah, but she could dance for dollars too yet chooses to be on unemployment instead. And I cannot just work an extra nigh shift … I wish I could, but physically I am maxed out, and I feel the aches and pains of stripping daily. Just walking 6 hours in eight inch stilettos is a lot on your back, not to mention dancing in them and defying gravity on the pole.

But people think money rains on us strippers all the time. To be honest, rarely customers will make it rain, instead we work very hard to squeeze a few bucks out of these suckers. And think about it, a bad therapist makes at least $120/h. We rarely get paid for our conversations and insights, or company we offer. We have to dance for them to get paid and many try to get specials like two dances for one 😦

I come to even remember that I was fired from one of my fitness locations due to a reveal about being a stripper. Two weeks prior of me being fired I was honored for building a class following in a very unpopular time slot — which no other instructor had accomplished according to the manager. Then two weeks after me being validated the assistant manager came across an article in the LA Times that revealed that I was a pole dancing instructor and stripper. I was fired via voicemail and have never been allowed back to this location, not even as a sub teacher. They didn’t even show me enough respect to tell me in person. All I got was a voicemail.

Working as a stripper is life alerting in good and bad ways. I am proud to be a stripper but often I bite my tongue and don’t tell what I do really at night. Well, there’s always the job of the waitress you can pretend to be 😉

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