Relationships should be symbiotic, right? Or maybe they are more like a bank account?
When I allow a person into my inner circle of friends I usually start them on a high allowance of let’s say $1,000,000 in their relationship account. They can do with their allowance whatever they want, and most people take full advantage of it, since I give so freely. Very few chosen ones even get the benefit of overdraw protection with me. But those are just a few people, that have a very special place in my heart. They all start withdrawing. Most people don’t understand that in order to keep a relationship bank account alive you cannot only withdraw, you have to also deposit, at least once in a while. Once the account is depleted, there is not much left to do or say, unless an unexpected deposit comes in.
I don’t mean this in a materialistic way. Of course, when you love someone and care for them you like to surprise them once in a while with a materialistic gift, just to set a lasting memory. But I am talking mostly about emotional giving and taking. Once you have depleted me, sucked me dry, taken my advice over and over again without once asking how I was doing … you are most likely facing bankruptcy.