Archive for April, 2015

URGENT LOVE

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , on April 30, 2015 by tiltdiary

Love is one of the things in life that is mostly taken for granted. Love is most often postponed to the next day, next week, next month. Because love seems so secure and stable we don’t nourish it since love always comes in abundance. You either love fully or you don’t. We always find other things that are more pressing than taking care of our loved ones. We are too tired to play ball with our dog who loves and adores us unconditionally. We forget or are too lazy to stick a love note in the mail for our long distance partner because we think we will see them soon anyways. We are too tired to go out of our way to drive an extra hour to see our parents who love us dearly. It is too hot outside to cook a lovely meal for our partner at home so we decide to get cheap take out and eat out of paper boxes. Hell, we even don’t think a quick “Hello” send via text will make a difference today, so maybe, if we don’t forget, we will send it tomorrow. There is always a good reason for postponing love, especially since love comes with uncomfortable commitment, and we are tired, exhausted, busy, distracted, afraid the other person will ask more if we give a little, afraid of rejection, plus we have to catch up on sleep, and take care of the people who don’t love us, actually, the ones that are mean to us trying to get them to change their minds to at least like us a little — like our disgruntled boss and bullying friend.

The problem with love is that we do not put any urgency on it. We think love is going to be always there … we take love for granted and forget to appreciate the fact that we have it in our lives. Love is neglected, ignored, often we are even annoyed by it … found yourself annoyed by the push of your dogs nose asking for affection while you were surfing the internet or chatting with some online date (a stranger really), by the cat that rubbed against you purring to wake you ten minutes earlier in the hope it could get some cuddle time,  and by your lover sending you too many text on a daily basis? You didn’t have time, right? You were too busy, too tired to get up a little earlier to take care of love? Did the new things you were curious about, the new people you had to meet, and the fact, that you had to make more money keep you away from good old love? Or that boring office job took it out of you so you couldn’t find the energy to love today? You couldn’t set the alarm an hour earlier to make love? Or squeeze in a quick lunch date with a man that was crazy for you? Or a coffee break with a girl who would give you the world because your meeting at work took all your time?

The problem with love is that most people do not put any urgency behind it. That’s when it turns tragic. Love can fade away when neglected for too many years, love can die — I myself lost many loved ones luckily with no regrets about what I could’ve should’ve done (they died in my arms but their physical body is still gone, and I cannot hold them anymore). Something in me always has the clock ticking for love. That’s why I am writing this blog post today. Don’t take love for granted. Even if you don’t love back — most likely your dog loves you more than you love your dog — cherish love. Any time, all the time. And be aware, if you want to keep love alive make it urgent. Every day. Put some effort in it. Throw the ball not just once. Send the flowers. Cook the meal. Write the poem, although, you suck at writing poems. Just let love live and breathe otherwise the loss of love might haunt you forever or even worse, suffocate you in the end. And remember, what my mother used to say, “You can sleep when you are dead.”

The simple realization that love won’t stay forever, that it’s limited in this physical body, and that it cannot be brought back once it moves on, can change your life and actions forever. Put some urgency behind love, start nurturing it, and cherish it. Don’t put love last on your schedule. Put it first.

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IN THE BATTLEFIELD OF LUST AND LOVE

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , on April 29, 2015 by tiltdiary

It seems to me, a man who is deeply infatuated with a woman won’t be able to stay away from her, and he will seek her company and put her above everything else.

However, a man who truly loves a woman will most likely be overwhelmed with his feelings for her and pull away.

Are we only learning how to deal with lust while love seems to often be a threat? What happens when love and infatuation mix together? An ongoing battlefield of push and pull?

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THE BRAIN IS ADDICTED TO DRAMA

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , on April 28, 2015 by tiltdiary

When drama happens the brain releases serotonin, a morphine like substance that will give you a kick. This was created in order to survive. Let’s say you got attacked by a dinosaur (obviously, some serious drama) the serotonin the brain produced was used to fight back or run away faster than you could ever imagine. But now a days, we don’t have dinosaurs attacking, yet, people still get the same kick when drama is created. The brain is of addictive nature and it leads people to crave drama, create it, and dwell on it. It’s often cultivated in the childhood experiences and will lead us through adulthood recreating the dramas that gave us our fix. Don’t buy into the drama. Walk away. Get clean. Sober up.

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THE ONGOING FEUD BETWEEN STRIPPERS AND POLE DANCERS

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , , , , , on April 27, 2015 by tiltdiary

Thank you, Alana Massey, for her clever take on one of my favorite subjects. Please enjoy her article

http://www.dailydot.com/lifestyle/strippers-pole-dancers-sex-work-debate/?fb=dd

 

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KIMONO STRIPTEASE

Posted in Jones' Fantasies with tags , , , , , , on April 26, 2015 by tiltdiary

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Photo by Ed Magik Photography, http://www.edmagik.com/

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THE PARAPLEGIC STRIP CLUB CUSTOMER

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , on April 25, 2015 by tiltdiary

Over the years, I have come to learn that handicap strip club customers can be a big problem. I don’t want to put all physically challenged men into the same boat but the few geriatric or paraplegic customers I have met displayed very similar character traits.

First of all, they all will tell you how harmless they are due to their handicap before they do lap dances with you. And you believe them. Because they can barely walk due to age or handicap. Then, once you get into the lap dance booth with them the horror unfolds. They are extremely aggressive and there is some sense of entitlement from their side. Like you are suppose to make up for their physical disadvantage. Additionally, they all feel like they get free passes in regards to what they tell you in the lap dance booth. Their mouth will go lose, and they will describe in detail using abstract and graphic imagery how they will go down on you, why they are better than any other guy at oral sex, and how they would sexually satisfy you, and most of these men who are ancient will justify that they are better at sexual practices due to their age. Now these guys can barely walk into the lap dance booth, but once in that cushinoy chair they are like wolves dress in sheep skin.

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DATING A STRIPPER

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , on April 24, 2015 by tiltdiary

At some point in your life, if you are a heterosexual man, you have most likely at least for a second dreamed about dating a stripper. Many men that come into the club develop the desire to date the girl they are obsessed with, and they actually fantasize about having a real relationship with her. Some of them feel we are the perfect sex vixen, others feel they need to rescue the girl of their dreams, some find us the perfect match due to the fact that we understand the male way of thinking better than most women … there are countless reasons why a man think his dancer of choice would make the perfect relationship match to him. I am talking about the single guys here, not the married men who think we would make the perfect mistress. And in the beginning, the fact that we work in a strip club makes us so much more appealing. But then, when you agree to meet a man for a cup of coffee outside of the strip club he will swear off the club and never visit you there again. He thinks he moved beyond the strip club material and won’t come and visit you in that scum environment anymore. And soon, in case the dancer is actually engaging into a relationship with this former customer — let’s say she does fall in love with him — the guy will most likely demand that she quits working in this establishment. Men don’t understand that the club is our livelihood and so much more. Once a stripper, always a stripper. And I say this with pride not shame. The club changes you. It gives you a magic pocket that will guide you through life. You don’t want to quit dancing. And if a man understands and loves you — and the stripper in you — he would make the strip club part of your lives, and respect it, even support you there. Dating a stripper is an art in itself.

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