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HOW MEN DEAL WITH REJECTION IN THE STRIP CLUB

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , on July 12, 2018 by tiltdiary

He had asked me on every visit of his to meet him outside of the club, and I had always politely declined. I was just not interested. Today his regular spiel: one private dance he paid for and a desperate dinner invitation. Me again politely, “I don’t want to meet you outside of the club. I am just your private dancer.” Him very angry and disturbed in a threatening tone throwing a tantrum like a three year old who doesn’t get the transformer toy he wanted, “Then, then, then I will never ever ask you out again.” Me relieved, “Thank you.”
But can you imagine how a customer would react if I would threaten him when he rejects a private dance!! 😀

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WHAT IT MEANS WHEN A STRIPPER SAYS “NO”

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , , , on July 11, 2018 by tiltdiary

When I stepped of the stage he waved me over with a bright smile. Then complimented me on my great performance being a skilled athlete and dancer. We got into a conversation, and he started telling me about himself. Kinda that elevator pitch to get a girl interested. He had lived all over the world, explored Asia, was an aspiring commercial director, and loved Sushi. I am sure Sushi was true, the rest … who knows. He thought I was a very interesting woman and wanted to know if I had a boyfriend. “No boyfriend here, not looking for one, not dating, not interested in dating but we can do a lap dance.” Him quickly, “Lap dances aren’t my thing. So what do you do for fun?” Me, “I train aerial, ride my bike, go hiking with my dogs. I write and always try to learn more about health, wellness, humans, and the world. “Him, “Why don’t you date?” Me very honest and straight to the point, “I enjoying very much to be single. Single since 2014 and happier than ever. Not looking for a man, not interested in hanging out in bars unless I work here, and no intention to change that any time soon.” Him again, “Well, would you ever consider going out with me? Just hanging out?” Me as straight forward as you can be, “Absolutely NO. Especially since we met here.” Him, “Why is that?” Me, “Because no matter what, you will always see me as a stripper.” Him, “What do you mean by that?” Me explaining, “It’s very simple. The minute people know you’re a stripper they treat you different. Your male yoga students all of a sudden comes on to you, your doctor of many years will try to kiss you or grope you, your co-worker will bring on the sex talk about how he is dreaming about having sex with you, and your girlfriends will expect you to pay for everything they want yet don’t want to spend their money on.” Him, “Oh, I see what you mean. I get it.” He took a deep breath and then he said, “Well, I would like to grab a drink with you.” I almost fell off my chair. In his mind, nothing said or explained was heard. It was as if I had never said clearly, “No,” to all of his offers. I had learned a lot about men that night. They complain all the time about us strippers being liars but when you tell the truth they just don’t hear it.

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SWING DANCING AT THE STRIP CLUB

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , on June 27, 2018 by tiltdiary

Somehow, I seem to inspire men to want to dance for me. It is not the first time in my career as a stripper that a man has asked me to ballroom or slow dance with him. Instead, of giving a lap dance I’ve partner danced with guys in the lap dance booth and many have gotten inspired to dance for me. I haven’t figured out yet why I unleash this urge in many men, but let me tell you, the shows I’ve enjoyed when a man stood up from the lap dance bench to start rocking out to the music has been as fascinating and as bizarre at the same time. As a stripper you cannot ever say you have seen it all, because there might be another guy who will make you doubt everything you know or have ever thought you knew. And one day, I already know it, a man is going to want to swing dance with with … now try swing dancing in eight inch stilettos …

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NEGATVE FORCES A STRIPPER BATTLES 

Posted in Customers with tags , , , on June 22, 2018 by tiltdiary

The young, slender man walked into the club. Under his hoody his black walnut colored, shiny skin revealed. His beautiful, bright-white teeth were revealed under his full lips when I introduced myself. He was full of life, and I could see he was ready to play so I didn’t hesitate to ask, “Would you like a private dance?” He responded in his thick, Jamaican accent, “Why not.” We did one dance, and he told me, “I want to see you on stage.” As if he had told the DJ, I heard him call me on stage. I told DJ, “Play a song a young, Jamaican man will love.” DJ responds, “Oh, that guy? He’s not going to tip you.” I try to be always patient and diplomatic with these grumpy DJs but I felt my ears weren’t hearing right. To this day, I haven’t understood yet why every DJ with only one exception — and he was let go to replace him with grumpy — tries to sabotage, discourage, and degrade us dancers. I do understand the politics and power game. But it still doesn’t make any sense to me. Wouldn’t it be rather normal that the DJ supports your business, fuels your confidence, and tries to make every dancer look as good as possible since he cashes in on us at the end of the shift. Anyways, this time I had had it with him, and I threatened him, “You better play something that will set my Jamaican friend on fire, you hear me!” DJs eyes widened in surprise about my intensity — I am usually rather on the easy going side.” I heard intensed percussion music blast through the speakers. The drums moved my body, and my Jamaican friend’s wallet. He made it rain on me …

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RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FROM A STRIPPER

Posted in Customers, Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , on June 14, 2018 by tiltdiary

But how should we treat others? In my opinion, we should always treat others with the same respect, compassion, care, and love we wish to be treated with by others. Think about it next time when your spouse, child, friend, or neighbor upsets you. If the roles would reverse, how would you like them to alert you that you hurt their feelings or crossed a boundary.
Now you might ask yourself if I treat my customers the way I would like to be treated if I would be the customer and they instead would be the stripper. I can absolutely say that I try to treat them with the respect, care, compassion, and love I wish for. Unfortunately, most customers do not treat us strippers kindly but I refuse to give up on respect, honestly, and civility.

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STRIPPER IS DESIGNATED DRIVER DATE 

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , , , on June 2, 2018 by tiltdiary

He’s a regular at my club, and I’ve danced privately for him many times before. But tonight, he’s ready to make his move to get me to meet him outside of the club. First, he recaps that it isn’t right for a beautiful woman like me not to go out or know famous bars like the “Rainbow Bar.” He suggests to take me there. I explain that since I don’t drink it’s really pointless for me to go to a bar. Him feeling victorious, “They have great food there like pizza. I’ll take you to dinner there. Give me your phone number.” I explain again, “I only eat vegan food, so pizza isn’t really my thing.” He has a solution for this as well, “I know great vegan restaurants.” Me, “Really, like what?” He can’t think of the names of the countless vegan restaurants he knows but he’s becoming more commanding, “Give me your phone number now!” I say politely, “No, thank you.” And then he has it all figured out, “I know now. Since you don’t drink you can be my designated driver when we go out.” We went from a drink invitation to a vegan dinner all the way to me becoming his chauffeur 😳😝🙄

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STRIP CLUB SIGHTSEEING TOUR 

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , on June 1, 2018 by tiltdiary

Two guys, hipsters, walk into the strips club as the DJ announces last call for alcohol. Emma and I go over there to check them out. The waitress rushes over to see if they want to order a last minute drink. They deny.  Then the DJ blasts over the mic, “Guys, this is the last girl on stage, after that lap dances only.” Emma asks one of the guys, “Do you want to go and do a lap dance?” He shakes his head no. I already know the other guy isn’t going to spend a penny, they came for the free show. But my guy can tell I figured him out, and I guess, he feels embarrassed about his own cheapness, and he starts justifying, “My friend is visiting from out of town, and I just brought him here to show him the area.” I feel like I don’t hear right. He really believes he can cover up his cheap ass with this hidious explanation acting like the strip club is some kind of sightseeing tour of a famous museum. Men!!! 😫

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