He shook his head and said, “No thanks, I don’t do lap dances. They are pointless because it never gets anywhere. You know what I mean.” I find an answer like this shows very underdeveloped, immature sexuality and lack of sensuality. Many men are very goal oriented and want to get somewhere, preferable as soon as possible. I believe the porn industry has contributed its share to a false perception of what sex could really be. It always ends with a girl moaning and screaming in a high pitched voice, “Oh jaaa, oh jaaaa, oh God, oh jaaaa,” and a guy clinching his face to show you the goal has luckily finally been reached. Also the duration to getting to the climax during a sex scene is usually under 3 minutes. Of course, otherwise it would blow the screen. Interestingly enough, most women complain about an unfulfilled sex life, although, they do orgasm during intercourse. So what’s up with that? And why do men still come to a strip and still do pay for lap dances, although, orgasm isn’t involved and “it won’t go anywhere?” It’s cheaper to go and hire a prostitute if you just want to make it happen. I believe, we all, men and women when sexually developed and not stuck in the infant stage of sexuality, do look for much more than just physical satisfaction when it comes to sexuality. We look for an eternal seduction that will carry on beyond times and ages. An attraction that will last forever because you will always remember and feel the chemistry and connection you have with this person. Like a muscle memory, but it’s really something that should be called cell memory and exists on a metaphysical level. A love that will never be able to be wiped out, an understanding and a connection that goes beyond just mental understanding, a desire to melt with this person, physically, mentally, emotionally, and metaphysically. As long as we don’t experience this level of connection we will keep looking for the fix. But if you ever find this rare match you will be drawn to it and there will be no limitations to sensuality and sexuality. And the seduction, the play, the exploration will be new, different, and exciting every single day. Like a never ending adventure that cannot be predicted, that will stay limitless, grow in excitement, and never worry about the outcome, instead just float like a bottle in the sea. And the sea is unpredictable: sometimes calm and gentle, sometimes rough and stormy, sometimes exciting and sometimes soothing. You will never know what you get, but you will know you truly have each other to make each others’ life better. And that will be eternal satisfaction leaving no unfulfilled need. Keep seeking without worrying about the outcome.
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