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WHAT I HATE ABOUT STRIPPING 

Posted in Stripper Secrets, Uncategorized with tags , , , , on April 26, 2018 by tiltdiary

Dancing is like a love-hate relationship. You love it so much you cannot imagine to quit but it can be also physically as well as emotionally exhausting. It is a tough profession. We dancers are often the punching bag of society. People go to the strip clubs to let lose, to be who they cannot be outside of the club, to get their fix, or to get a half naked therapist often without even thinking that we dancers are at work and should be appropriately reimbursed for the time we spend with a customer, the advice we give, or even just the patience we have to listen to them. Many customers feel entitled and think we are horny pole dancers who want to go home with them when our shift is over. But we are not. We are entertainers, sexy, sensual dancers, yet, often we are seen as sexually open minded, casual dates. 

If the majority of people who visit the strip club would just understand the profession of stripping it would change everything, but people are uninformed and uneducated and do not follow etiquette … sometimes, just because they can be rude …

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AS A STRIPPER YOU HAVE TO HAVE A GOOD NOSE FOR …

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , , , , , on April 25, 2018 by tiltdiary

… sniffing out bullshit quickly …

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WHAT MAKES A STRIPPER TICK

Posted in Customers, Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , on April 18, 2018 by tiltdiary

He was relieved, “It seems like you love to work here?!” Most people think strippers despise their job and hate the customers. I replied, “I absolutely love what I do, and like with any job there’s good and bad sides to dancing.” Him, “What is the one thing you love the most about this job?” Me without hesitation, “The seduction … on stage, in the lap dance room, and in the air. Seduction is an art, it’s power, fun, and a fair game since I play very straight forward. I cannot get enough of it. To be honest, it’s addictive.”

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THE GLADIATORS OF THE STRIP CLUB

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , on April 5, 2018 by tiltdiary

I’ve written much about strip club customers and the relationships that form between us dancers and them. Today, I want to dedicate my time to the women I work with and respect very much so. Strippers are the women who don’t just talk or dream about it. We are the type of woman who actually has the courage to dive into this male dominated world determined to survive and fight for a better tomorrow for our families and us. Well, you have seen it in some movies that try to shed light on this unexplored life of the exotic dancer/stripper. You have seen the girls sit around their well lid makeup table with the photographs of their kids taped around their own, personal mirror. You’ve seen their giant lockers with their costumes and boas in it. You have felt it through those movies how these women hold together, are best friends, and they fight the mean manager together. You’ve seen their best friend and protector, the bouncer, by their side. A community of genuine camaraderie, deep friendship, and powerful women who hold together through thick and thin. You get a pretty good idea how much fun it can actually be to work with your co-strippers together and form a unique family.
But wait! Who wrote these movies? And how do they know about my co-strippers? I hate to break it to you, but it is nothing like this. It is very different. First of all, you don’t get your own mirror in the spacious dressing room, nor your own locker where you can store your carefully picked, expensive costumes. If anybody gets an assigned place in the dressing room then it’s the club bully. She gets an old, dirty chair she picks to defend her space in front of a plywood board — the makeup table — just to prove her power.  Your dressing room is more like a broom-cupboard where twelve to fifteen girls will cram in. If you are lucky to catch a locker you can only fit your wallet in it and some of your most valuable things you choose not to keep in your purse that you will never leave out of sight. If you bring expensive costumes you might leave without them except the one you’re wearing. If your costumes aren’t expensive you might still want to hide them because some bitch might steal them just because she hates you and hopes you will be sad. I have heard many stories where girls were left without their street clothes and shoes after their shift to punish them for being a good dancer or just because some club bully had to prove her point.
And don’t expect anybody to hug and cheer when you enter the dressing room. If you’re polite and stupid enough to greet the girls when you enter the broom-cupboard changing room you will be ignored and looked down upon — only a weak bitch says “Hello.” Don’t show any weakness, don’t tell any emotional stories, don’t share anything important to you … because it can and it will be used against you to turn off customers, make fun of you, or just because … Keep to yourself, don’t trust anybody, don’t help anybody — helping means you’re not self-sufficient or cannot exist on your own. Instead, try to be a bigger bitch than the biggest bitch. Especially, if you’re good at what you do, your co-strippers will hate you, hope you break your neck on stage, try to make your life miserable in the hope you will never come back. Will they shine a glimpse of compassion towards you once in a while? Oh yes, they will. Don’t trust it. Any compliment, any kindness is usually a guaranteed trick to stab you in the back later. And watch out for the girls who work in teams against you. The more powerful you are the more they will gang up on you. It looks like they are best friends but they are just trying to take you out before they attack each other. And in case you are physically attacked, don’t count on your bouncer. He might be busy flirting with another dancer, asleep, or he might think you deserve the beating especially if you are a top income earner. Your DJ or manager might jump to your help but don’t count on it. Don’t count on anything. Only rely on yourself.
I respect every and each woman who has the courage to dance, but we are some of the toughest, most independent women out there. And in the strip club it’s survival of the fittest — eat or be eaten. The strip club is a safari you go on without any guns or knives. You fight with bare hands or sometimes you use a stiletto to defend yourself.

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WHAT TYPE OF WOMAN CAN BECOME A STRIPPER 

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , on March 30, 2018 by tiltdiary

I believe there’s a stripper in every woman. If she has an ounce of self awareness she will long for admiration, she will secretly desire to master the art of seduction, and she will want to know about men only what strippers can know. Women want to be like us and they fear us at the same time. We are powerful creatures. That’s why so many amateur showcases pop up from the nowhere. Women live in these events through the fantasy of walking through the dimm light while men as well as women desire them and express it through making it rain on them. But then sadly the photographs will be posted on social media under #notastripper. So it is ok to strip as long as it is just for fun. It is ok to wear stilettos and expose you ass for free. But earning money with it is for some reason wrong. But what these women don’t know is that dancing on stage is only 30% of the job. Because we talk to their husbands they don’t want to listen to anymore. We hear them cry, we give them the shoulder to lean on so they can go back and be better men again. 

If you ask me any woman who is open to learn about life and who has the courage to embrace her sexuality can strip. It helps to be physically fit but the job will whip you into shape as much as you allow it to. It helps to be outgoing and interested in humanity. It helps to have a good heart but like in most professions there are many good top earning pretenders. The unique thing about stripping through is courage. You have to have the courage to stop dreaming about it and actually do it. And it’s hard, scary, risky, raw. But it’s also eye opening, will bring you to life and it can change everything.

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STRIPPERS ARE THE PUNCHING BAG FOR SEXUAL ABUSERS

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , , , on March 13, 2018 by tiltdiary

If you are a woman, if you have a vagina, chances are that you have or will be assaulted by a man at some point in your life. Most of the time your abuser will be a man you know, possibly even very well. The media has uncovered that women from all walks of life are affected and more women are coming out daily, more schmucks are being fired, more men exposed.
As a stripper sexual assault is part of your job environment, in fact, society expects you to take the hit and shut up and go about your life as if this is what you deserve. It goes even further. If people who do not know that you dance for living find out that you work in adult entertaining the relationship with them will change. My relationship with a male yoga student will change very quickly if he happens to find out that I am a stripper. I have been asked after my secret profession was exposed if it was OK to kiss — I am their fitness instructor! Co-workers have text me inappropriate late night messages, and doctors have started to make sexual remarks as well as telling me details about their sexually non-cooperative wives while I was on their treatment table. Male behavior will suddenly change once they have a stripper in front of them. Female behavior changes too, but today I just choose to hit the guys. Men feel a deep connection to you once they know you are a sex worker. They think you understand them better and therefore they also feel you’re responsible for their lack of sexual fulfillment, especially if their wife or girlfriend isn’t game. They feel you owe them the release, they also think since you deal with men in the club on a “sexual” level, which in my opinion is incorrect because it is rather a “sensual” level than a “sexual” encounter, you should take care of their sexual urges as well. Nobody understands though that stripping is a profession. And when I am not at work I don’t want to work, similar to a mortician. When he’s not at work he’s not going to wash a corps’ ass and apply makeup to their dead face unless in a specific environment where he’s going to be paid for his work.
I have been asked by men and women many times, after it was revealed that I am a stripper, to do a lap dance for them outside of the club. They claimed that they preferred a well lid environment, or they didn’t like the atmosphere in strip clubs, or they preferred a free lap dance outside of the club, or they wanted me to prove to them that I like them so much that they are worthy of a free lap dance. Would they ever ask their doctor to make a free house visit, their dog walker to walk their dog for free, or their maid to clean the house  for free to prove her love for their family?
While we cannot prevent or eliminate the fact that women will always be victims of dicks, we cannot allow these assaults to affect or compromise our lives negatively. We cannot give our assaulter that much power. But we also cannot let them get away with it. We owe it to all the women out there to expose them and make them feel the consequences of their violations. We also need to learn — and I mean this in a positive way — to never at any circumstances let your stripper shield down. Wear it at work inside the club, but take it with you when you leave. Never strip down completely. Your stripper shield stays on!

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WHEN IN DOUBT BLAME THE STRIPPER

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , on February 23, 2018 by tiltdiary

He explained or should I rather say justified his inappropriate behavior, “Well, you bring things out in me I have never felt. It’s not my fault!” Yes, yes, yes blame the stripper … that’s always a good one …

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