Besides lust, guilt is one of the most dominant emotions that rules the strip club. Single men, men in committed relationships, as well as married men feel guilty about their visit to the strip club, in fact, they feel guilty about their lust and the reasons why they visit the strip club. Yet, despite heart wrenching guilt, they show up anyways. Actually, the guiltier they get, the further they will usually take their little strip club endeavor. First, they will just come to watch us perform on stage and leave terribly guilty about being a creepy voyeur. But soon, watching won’t be enough and they’ll agree to that lap dance that they refused on their first visit. If the lap dance goes well, and turned out to be a lustful, pleasurable, almost irresistible experience the subject will leave even guiltier but start fantasizing about much more then just a lap dance. That will induce even more guilt and in most cases he will come back and look for more. It will go this far for him wanting to meet the girl of his choice outside of the club for dinner and of course, for sex. Any step taken further into the guilt ridden relationship will magnify his guilt, yet, that exactly will make him want to push to the next level. To me this seems irrational and not logical. I don’t really understand the feeling of guilt, unless it comes to eating too much chocolate and feeling sick afterwards. In that case, I will try to remember the amount of chocolate I have eaten, and I will try to examine at which point I started feeling queezy to make sure, the next time I indulge into eating delicious, mouth watering chocolate, not to go over my limit so I wont feel sick and regret to have eaten too much. I though never felt like I should stop eating chocolate altogether. I just feel everything in moderation would be fine, and I can rely on my body to report back when I overdid it.
What is guilt in the first place? Is it really a core emotion we humans feel? I think, guilt is a learned emotion induced by other people values which are learned as well by other people. So guilt has been handed down from generation to generation. Men feel guilty about sex, wanting sex, watching porn, going to the strip clubs, fantasizing about sex and so on. But, society makes sure to induce some negativity about sexual thoughts, although, without sex, our species would quickly be extinct and society induce guilt would be eliminated about sex as well. I do not think any other species feels guilty or dirty about sex, yet, wives make sure their husbands feel guilty about wanting and desiring sex especially after the wives aren’t interested in sexuality anymore. In my opinion, guilt is a useless emotion especially if it fuels the guilty pleasure. Unless, there might be a created addiction to guilt in out society. You feel at least so rotten about your action…it’s better than feeling nothing. You know you are alive and that is why you try to take the guilt to the next level. To me it doesn’t make sense. If I would truly be guilty about something I have done I would just never do it again, no matter how much willpower it would take. But I guess, I am more addicted to what makes me really happy, adventure, and life than focusing on society induced guilt.
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