Archive for August, 2013

FINDING HAPPINESS

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , , , , on August 31, 2013 by tiltdiary

The young man caught my eye the minute he stepped through the club door with his friend. They are both very good looking, handsome, wealthy men in their thirties, and I knew right away Mr. Gorgeous and I were suppose to have an impacting conversation. I quickly found out that his sign was Libra, and Gemini and Libra always enjoy each others conversation. He also shared with me, that he had volunteered at a suicide hotline for over two years now, and that he was sad, how lonely humanity was, and that people had nobody to talk to, and he was happy to offer his listening skills. Then he asked me, “Jones, do you have people in your life that you can count on?” I had to think hard, and I asked him, “How do you define being able to count on someone?” He answered without hesitation, “A true friend will drive you to the airport and pick you up without even hesitating.” I answered honestly, “I have no such friend. I wouldn’t even know who to ask. I just take a shuttle.” He couldn’t believe it, “Are you just playing me? You have to have a support system.” I said, “I get by on my own pretty well, and I am glad I can take care of myself in sickness as well as in health. Because back when I was married it was painful not to be able to rely on the one person who should’ve taken care of me when I was sick.Today, I know, that I can make it on my own. So many couples are just together and miserable because they are scared to be on their own. I know, I will be OK. It’s me and my dogs, and we will make it. And if I would ever find a person I would want to be with, I would know, I wouldn’t be with them because I need them, but because I truly want them.” He asked, “Do you have any goals and dreams?” And I shared my vision for Tilt with him and told him, “I know exactly what I want.” He looked at me and said, “Wow, that’s amazing. Although, I have a great support system here, I don’t know what I want.” And I admitted, “I guess I am the lucky stripper here, because at least I know exactly what I want, and I have a clear vision. You on the other hand …,” and he interrupted me, “I on the other hand am the lost soul with no vision for my future, although, I seem to have the perfect life and a few friend who would drive me to the airport and take care of me when I am sick. You’re right, you are much better off than me.”

I feel sad for Mr. Gorgeous, and I hope to see him again some time. Maybe I could help him find his passion, let it grow into his vision, and give him purpose.

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THE SIDE EFFECTS OF JEALOUSY

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , on August 30, 2013 by tiltdiary

I have this customer at the club who follows me around like a mean puppy. He gets extremely jealous just even when I greet a new customer coming into the club, not to mention, when I sit down to talk to someone besides Mr. Jealous, or give another guy a lap dance. Mr. Jealous is extremely possessive, pushy, and tries to force me to sit with him, however, when I do agree to take a seat next to him, he is too insecure to talk to me. The more Mr. Jealous pushes, the more I pull away. I believe, jealousy stems from deep rooted insecurities, and it’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you feel other people can take something away from you because they are better than you, they sure will. Holding on to someone, playing games, and pulling tricks to keep them in your life, stalking them, and throwing yourself at them will make that exact person pull away from you. Self-confidence is probably one of the most attractive character traits and works like a magic magnet. Remember, no one can take anything from you if you can manage to stay 100% true to yourself.

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IT NEVER GETS EASIER TO LIVE WITHOUT THE ONE YOU LOVE THE MOST

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , on August 29, 2013 by tiltdiary

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Today, 5 years ago, my beloved Jed took his last breath in my arms. People have told me it would get easier to live without him. But I really don’t feel it ever got easier. Of course, you learn to go on without the ones you love the most, but it certainly doesn’t feel like it got easier. I carry my Jed with me in my heart every hour, every minute, and every second of my life. He is greatly missed, and I am looking forward to the day when I am granted to move on when he will come to pick me up. Till then, I will try to think about how lucky I got to experience this kind of honest, unconditional, mutual love, and very special connection. Most people don’t ever get to feel and love like this. With Jed I felt whole, eternally happy, fulfilled, and there was nothing else I wanted. With him all ambition for the outside world died, and I was completed with him by my side. He means everything and all to me, and I miss him so much.

In memories of my beloved Jed

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THE BODY IS YOUR TEMPLE

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , on August 28, 2013 by tiltdiary

jason10I believe it is our responsibility to cherish our body and nurture it with the right foods, and keep it in it’s best form and health. You have been given this one precious form to carry you through this life time. Be careful and gentle about how you treat your precious shell, because it serves you daily without asking much back. This life is about being at your best, and if you aren’t, then work harder to get to your best. It is never too late to start walking into the right direction and leave old, bad habits behind and replace them with new, healthy, life changing habits. Your are what you consume.

Drawing by Nguyen Dong

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STEALING STRIPPER MOVES

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , on August 27, 2013 by tiltdiary

Women try to imitate each other all the time. They wear alike shoes, buy similar dresses, jewelery, even try to follow the same makeup trend. I have seen students, friends, even my neighbors try to be a little bit more like Jones. And the club is no exception. There is this particular girl at my club who tries to imitate me, and she takes it even further by trying to steal my very unique stripper moves. On my last shift at the club, MissStealer and I happen to be in the lap dance booth at the same time, and I noticed she was trying to pull one of my signatures lap dance moves on her guy. Shortly after I got out of the lap dance booth the guy MissStealer had danced for walked up to me and told me, “Don’t tell this the girl who just gave me a lap dance, but I couldn’t take my eyes off of you while she was dancing for me. She is nice, but you are magical! Would you mind giving me a few private dances?”

What makes a woman magical is her uniqueness, her own way of moving and dancing, and living entirely in her own body. You cannot steal someone else’s moves or looks. It won’t work. The challenge is to find your own way of moving and being, and with this discovery comes liberation. The secret key to being irresistible is being fully YOU.

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WHY POLE DANCING IS EMPOWERING

Posted in Jones' wisdom, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , on August 26, 2013 by tiltdiary

anaarmstand2The mind gets stronger through physical accomplishments. The stronger the body, the stronger the mind and willpower.

I would describe pole dancing as one of the adventure sports. You have to be 100% focused in order to be successful, so it is the simplest form of mediation. When working on the pole you cannot listen to your inner doubt. You cannot cheat and just grip a little, you cannot let go when on top otherwise it could cost you your life or you would at least get seriously injured. But most importantly, when pole dancing you can still be pretty, sexy, and let your inner vixen out. She will actually help you to accomplish the unthinkable. Beauty, sensuality, strength, focus, and high risk combined, makes pole dancing one of the most empowering experiences to women. Some of us admit it, others practice secretly, but once the pole has caught your heart you won’t be able to forget it or leave it behind. Pole dancing will change how you feel about yourself forever and will teach you, that you can accomplish with determination, hard training, and patience whatever you want. And if a trick seems unreachable, remember, you have the rest of your life to master it. Women who pole fly, that’s why we can leave pain, heartache, and weakness behind.

Photo by Nanette Gonzales Photography

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CUSTUMOR IS TRYING TO MAKE A STRIPPER JEALOUS

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , on August 25, 2013 by tiltdiary

I have this young man visit me at the club, and he is kind of crazy for me. He is in his early 20s, lives still at his parent’s house, but earns a lot of money at his current job. Last time after he did 11 private dances in a row with me, he has asked me if I would want to see him outside of the club. He felt entitled to ask me this question because he thought he spent enough money on me, and like I owed him something. I told him most likely not, although, we have a great connection to each other. He is very young and on top of that I am not looking for a relationship or a hook up. He still insisted me taking his phone number, and the next time he came to visit, he acted like we are boyfriend and girlfriend, wanted me to sit with him and entertain him, yet, only tipped other dancers and even did lap dances with other girls. He purposefully didn’t tip me on stage and pretended he was interested in other dancers. I find his behavior very immature. It is clear that he is trying to make me jealous, while following me like a puppy and watching every move I make. He doesn’t understand that he has already broken my trust with his silly jealousy strategy. I am not jealous, but I don’t even want to be casual strip club friends with a person that pulls shit like this. In his defense, he is very young, but I think he is old enough not to behave so rudely. On top of that I am secure enough to know, that no matter what dancer he gets dances with, he will always keep jonesing for me. He even proves it to me by never doing more than one dance in a row with any other dancer. I feel sorry for him, because he did blew the possibility of us being friends, and me helping him (like I did before his jealousy strategy) through challenges that a young man encounters who lives with very strict parents and three other spoiled siblings.

Men try to make us girls jealous all the time. And they don’t realize it backfires. As strippers we are used to men being insincere and just wanting to use us. Pulling the jealousy strategy will push us just further away and increase our mistrust. Games like this are useless and break trust.

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