One of my friends — she’s a doctor — asked me recently if I think marriage changes people. She has never been married, and it used to be one of her life time goals to build a family with the lovely man of her dreams, but then she shared her observations with me, “Jones, two of my female friends have a similar story, and I wonder what you think about it. Both of them used to be very externally oriented women. Both would wear tons of makeup, only dresses, and you couldn’t catch them without their high heels. But then they finally got married … and the one friend, after having a baby, is now never wearing makeup, she gained weight (OK let it be baby weight), and I only see her in sweatpants and tennis shoes. The other one, just married for 3 months now, has already gained (along with her lovely husband) 10 pounds, chopped off her beautiful, feminine, long hair and good-bye makeup, high heels, and dresses as well. What is it? Why do these women change so quickly?” I tried to explain that marriage gives people a false sense of security. I also find this whole pre-marriage dieting thing very superstitious. It seems the brides are more worried about their look on that one day of their actual wedding ceremony than about how they will look for the rest of their life. Creating beautiful — in my opinion false — memories seems to be more important than creating a long, lasting, happy, healthy life with the partner you have chosen. Plus, if you are a high heel makeup girl before you get married but change quickly into a sweatpants couch potato once the paperwork is signed it’s in my opinion marriage fraud. It’s like someone pretending to be a meat eater till they get married to then tell their spouse after the contract is signed that they are strict vegan and insist on the spouse to become vegan as well. It’s just not fair to your partner. But it is the trend. I feel most couples deceive each other even before they get married. And of course, once they feel secure till death do them part shit will really hit the fan. It’s not cool to get fat, comfortable, and selfish once you think your partner is tied to you for life. I feel, each partner has the responsibility to be at their very best in order to guarantee a happy and healthy life together. But most of the times the partners turn to their worst. So do I think marriage changes people? Absolutely yes. And I am writing this post in the hope to change the mentality of people. It’s not about your wedding day and the pretty photographs and gifts you will gather. It’s about who you are and want to be for someone you love dearly … wouldn’t you want them to see you at your best, in best shape, dressed up and sexy, brushed teeth and fresh smelling? For love no effort is high enough … and finding an eating and TV body doesn’t require paperwork. Think about who you want to be for the man or the woman of your dreams who you want to share your precious life with.
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