STRIPPER’S RECOMMENDATION ABOUT SEXUAL PREFERENCES

Sexual preferences should not be discussed during sex or just brought up in the bedroom. If you know you like certain thing, especially if they might be out of the ordinary, you should address your desires before engaging into sex so your partner has a choice. Even if your kinky streak is a deal breaker it’s not fair to surprise your partner with it or think you could sneak them in. Good sex is based on trust, honestly, and the ability to communicate about it no matter how kinky your desires are.

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WHEN STRIP CLUB CUSTOMERS GO OVERBOARD

I remember, some of my customers who eventually became my regular, would go completely overboard when I first met them at the club. One of them, would write me endless letters, first explaining how much his wife hurt him by cheating on him with her fitness trainer, and then he would go onto scenarios about the things he would want to do with me like going to “Trashy Lingerie” and dressing up for role play … The problem revealing his sexual fantasies was that he had no idea what I am into, just assuming I would like what turns him on. Then often, at the end of the letter, some kind of hint would slip out that he was trying to get back together with his wife and really trying to hook up with me was just payback time.

Another regular of mine send me long, very long letters about why he thinks I would be his perfect mistress justifying that his wife, since on antidepressants, had no sex drive and would be OK with him having a mistress as long as she wouldn’t know about it. If he would’ve said it like that I would’ve probably not thought that much but his detailed descriptions about the sexual challenges that they were facing in their marriage was really inappropriate and creepy. His persistent dinner invitations and anger outbursts via email and in person when I declined concerned me as well and even if I would’ve had the slightest interest in him that alone raised the red flag.

Most men do not understand that we strippers are women who have preferences and choose our sexual partners according to our taste, chemistry, and attraction. They think, if they are interested and attracted to us then those feelings are mutual.

I do not judge these men upon their needs and assumptions, and I can see what they are looking for but at the same time, their urges and needed fixes will not make me change how I feel about them: I care about them, I listen, I will even read their long, daunting, over the top pleading letters … I might offer advice, and I will be their girl during my shift at the strip club. But that’s it. They are my customers!

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WHEN WOMEN CHEAT

Statistics show that men and women in long term relationships cheat at the same rate. They say women cheat for other reasons then men. But I don’t quiet agree with that. An affair happens when the signs of emotional disconnect have been ignored by both parties for too long. I also think we women change much faster and drastically then men do. That fact is linked alone to the biological changes we go through. We are nothing in our 30s that we were in our 20s. And wait till the 40s hit … We reach our sexual peek much later than men. That means we are much wiser and secure at outr peek and more connected to our needs. And things continue to change. I think that causes often the biggest dilemma. Many men tell me, “I don’t even know who my wife is anymore.” The woman has evolved and established her sexual desires and needs, and those desires might be far off from what they were when they met their partner. Men often try to justify, “But we discussed this before we got married. She knows how I am wired.” It’s the same way when a couple agreed when they married in their 20s that they both never wanted to have children, but guess what … the woman might change her mind. Things change, no matter how solid you set them in stone. You never know what life throws you and which path you are going to take. You cannot secure any relationship by signing paperwork or by agreeing on desires and preferences in regards to your sexuality and emotional being. All you can try to do is evolve with your partner hoping you rather grow together than apart. Yet, be prepared, it takes an open mind, lots of patience, and most importantly the willingness to leave rusty, old, outdated ideas behind along with your ego and the false impression that you have figured it all out.

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