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DEFENDING THE PROFESSION OF THE STRIPPER

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , on November 5, 2016 by tiltdiary

The girls were complaining about the club. They were angry because they felt the club was not doing enough to promote us dancers, guys were coming to sit and drink and watch the show for free, some visitors won’t spend a dime on us dancers, and some customers are rude and feel insulted when we dancers say “Hi” to them like we are bothering them while they enjoy their cold one. The girls felt the strip club was turning into the local dive bar with sexy girls as a bonus. Apparently, one customer had said, “It’s better than sitting at Starbucks.” The girls were appalled and blamed it all on management. They felt nothing is being done to make customers respect us dancers and treat us like entertainers. At some point, I couldn’t take the blaming anymore, and I had to step in, “Ladies, it’s not the fault of the club. This is the best club ever. This club is paradise and one of a kind. It’s partially the problem of how things are developing over the past few years. People don’t understand the strip club etiquette anymore. But it’s in part the fault of us dancers as well. The fault of the dancers who hang out with customers outside of the club. It’s partially the fault of the dancers who sit with customers just for a drink or two, or who talk to customers for a long time without making clear that we need to be reimbursed for our time and conversation. The girls who go back to a customer to sit with him even if he didn’t tip them on stage. It’s up to us dancers to earn the respect back. To demand respect. To value our own time and make it clear that we don’t sit with a customer for a toxic, unhealthy, alcoholic drink. Only we dancers can defend our profession, the profession of the stripper.”
It all comes down to self-respect, self-empowerment, independence, and self-value. Customers need to stay customers, and strippers need to stay unreachable idols customers look up to and are granted to spend time with.

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WHEN STRIPPERS GIVE GIFTS TO EACH OTHER

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , on May 30, 2016 by tiltdiary

As a stripper you should not give any other dancer a gift directly. If you do this you might look suspicious like you are trying to buy yourself a favor. If you have anything to give it’s best to leave it on the makeup table in the dressing room. If you think a certain girl should have the piece of clothing or the nail polish you brought to give away you can suggest it casually to her like, “Barbie, this would really look great on you.” Then it’s best to leave the dressing room and let whoever wants what take it. Personal gifts are misleading and will not work in your favor.

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WHO THREW THE DOLLAR BALL?

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , , on January 18, 2016 by tiltdiary

Some customers seem to enjoy wadding a dollar bill into a ball and throwing it at us strippers. Some of these dollar ball throwers form tight balls and aggressively target certain body parts then wait till we turn away when they throw their dollar ball so they won’t be identified as the culprit — I call them pussy, boob, or ass wadders.. I have never met a stripper who enjoys the dollar ball. First of all, dollar balls are a pain in the butt to unfold in order to use them in the future. Second of all, the dollar ball is actually a dangerous hazard to any dancer who wears high heels. It is literally like throwing a tennis ball into a bicycle wheel and then after landing on the stage the dollar ball can be compared to a slippery banana peel if you accidentally step on it in your stilettos. Last but not least, the dollar ball throwing customer — even if he just forms the dollar ball out of laziness so he can throw it a longer distance and doesn’t have to get up to politely tip the dancer — reminds me of a stupid spitball shooting school boy bully.
Next time, you feel the urge to wad a dollar up into a ball and throw it at a stripper, remember, a sedentary lifestyle is harmful to your health. Get up and tip politely.

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STRIP CLUB ICON

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , on June 29, 2015 by tiltdiary

The man who knows and understands strip club etiquette is a species endangered from extinction. Very few men still understand how to work the playground of the club. It is a shame, but strip club etiquette is lost more and more. Men are trying to convince themselves and us strippers that they are only visiting to grab a cold one. It’s the stripper’s fault for walking around half naked, talking to them, entertaining them, dancing on stage, and mastering the art of the striptease. The modern male is trying to believe that he is not a sexual driven creature and voyeur. Men are castrating themselves by denying that they are visual, sexual human beings.

A confident man, who is not in denial nor afraid of his sexuality, and understands strip club etiquette shines way above the fake beer grabers. He is iconic. He glorifies our profession, and we long for his visits, and he makes our night.

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HOW MEN DECLINE A LAP DANCE

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , , on June 11, 2015 by tiltdiary

During one shift you can have anything from 12-17 girls working with you on the floor. There is everything you can imagine on the floor: tall, skinny, round and voluptuous, blond, brunette, punk, goth, skimpy, classy, trashy, tough … all body shapes, hair colors, all  sorts of outfits, and styles are represented. And all these girls are beautiful in their own way. Every woman has her own style of dancing and expressing, and there is literally no right or wrong. There is a girl for every guy, and it is just a plus for the club to have as much variety as possible. However, I find it very interesting how men deal with the fact that you are not their type. A man knows very quickly whether he likes you, the other girl, or both of you, but here is what happens when he’s absolutely not interested into you: when you walk up to him very friendly to say “Hi” he will

A.) act like he doesn’t speak the same language, avoid eye contact and almost act threatened by you or even displays hostile behavior trying for you to get scared and walk away.

B.) pretend he likes you but makes up a lie why he doesn’t want to do a lap dance with you. He will say, “I have no money, ” or “I don’t do lap dances, ” or, “I am just here to chill.” Then a few minutes later he will walk into the lap dance room with another girl displaying shame and guilt for having lied to you.

C.) suck your energy and try to be entertained by you trying to get as much out of you for free promising to do a lap dance later but then not do those dances with you.

Rejection is a big part of being a stripper, and you cannot take it personal. The only thing that strikes me about it is how men don’t have the courage — not even in the strip club — to be straight forward. The strip club should be a guilt free playground where customers get to choose freely who they play with, but common courtesy and straight forwardness should be part of it. After all, when you go to Magic Mountain and you don’t like to go on one specific ride you don’t vandalize the equipment of the ride you are rejecting. You politely decline without displaying guilt and shame for your behavior.

 

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GRUSOME NIGHTS AT THE STRIP CLUB

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , on September 20, 2013 by tiltdiary

The last shift I worked at the club was so horrible, I feel like I never want to go back. For hours there was just one customer visiting, sipping on his beer not tipping anybody except Chantal who was talking to him. He wasn’t generous to her either, but at least he gave her a few bucks.

Guys don’t understand that we strippers still have to go on stage, exhaust ourselves even if there is just one cheap guy visiting. I don’t know what they think. Maybe that we get an hourly rate to dance at the club. But most likely they don’t think anything. They are just ignorant, selfish fuckers.

Finally at 1:30 am, Chantal who talked Mr. Ignorante takes her last stage and collects her few dollars from him on stage. I am suppose to go on stage next, and my DJ, who always watches out for us girls, says, “I am going to play a long break song hoping this guy will leave. But if not you have to go on stage as the last dancer of the night.” I say to him, “Chantal is already changing, and this guy is sitting alone now and should leave. ” DJ says, “Please tell Chantal to tell this guy ‘good-bye’ so he can leave. I want him to go away.”

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