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HOW MEN DEAL WITH REJECTION IN THE STRIP CLUB

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , on July 12, 2018 by tiltdiary

He had asked me on every visit of his to meet him outside of the club, and I had always politely declined. I was just not interested. Today his regular spiel: one private dance he paid for and a desperate dinner invitation. Me again politely, “I don’t want to meet you outside of the club. I am just your private dancer.” Him very angry and disturbed in a threatening tone throwing a tantrum like a three year old who doesn’t get the transformer toy he wanted, “Then, then, then I will never ever ask you out again.” Me relieved, “Thank you.”
But can you imagine how a customer would react if I would threaten him when he rejects a private dance!! 😀

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WHAT IT MEANS WHEN A STRIPPER SAYS “NO”

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , , , on July 11, 2018 by tiltdiary

When I stepped of the stage he waved me over with a bright smile. Then complimented me on my great performance being a skilled athlete and dancer. We got into a conversation, and he started telling me about himself. Kinda that elevator pitch to get a girl interested. He had lived all over the world, explored Asia, was an aspiring commercial director, and loved Sushi. I am sure Sushi was true, the rest … who knows. He thought I was a very interesting woman and wanted to know if I had a boyfriend. “No boyfriend here, not looking for one, not dating, not interested in dating but we can do a lap dance.” Him quickly, “Lap dances aren’t my thing. So what do you do for fun?” Me, “I train aerial, ride my bike, go hiking with my dogs. I write and always try to learn more about health, wellness, humans, and the world. “Him, “Why don’t you date?” Me very honest and straight to the point, “I enjoying very much to be single. Single since 2014 and happier than ever. Not looking for a man, not interested in hanging out in bars unless I work here, and no intention to change that any time soon.” Him again, “Well, would you ever consider going out with me? Just hanging out?” Me as straight forward as you can be, “Absolutely NO. Especially since we met here.” Him, “Why is that?” Me, “Because no matter what, you will always see me as a stripper.” Him, “What do you mean by that?” Me explaining, “It’s very simple. The minute people know you’re a stripper they treat you different. Your male yoga students all of a sudden comes on to you, your doctor of many years will try to kiss you or grope you, your co-worker will bring on the sex talk about how he is dreaming about having sex with you, and your girlfriends will expect you to pay for everything they want yet don’t want to spend their money on.” Him, “Oh, I see what you mean. I get it.” He took a deep breath and then he said, “Well, I would like to grab a drink with you.” I almost fell off my chair. In his mind, nothing said or explained was heard. It was as if I had never said clearly, “No,” to all of his offers. I had learned a lot about men that night. They complain all the time about us strippers being liars but when you tell the truth they just don’t hear it.

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BATHROOM ADVICE FROM A STRIPPER

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , on July 9, 2018 by tiltdiary

Should you feel comfortable with your partner at any point in your life to leave the bathroom door open. My simple answer is, “NO.”
Only exception: if your partner becomes your care giver.

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CAN YOU SPARE SOMEONE A PAINFUL LIFE LESSON WITH THE RIGHT ADVICE?

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , on July 5, 2018 by tiltdiary

People ask me for advice all the time. Whether it’s through clients in fitness, in regards to dog behaviorism and dog nutrition, or as a Fogo Sagrado life coach, or in regards to sex and relationships as a stripper and online Sexpert. What strikes me as very interesting is, that in all my professions advice is handled very similarly. If and when people get advice they do not want to hear, they either don’t acknowledge it — yes, it is like you never said it or wrote it out for them, they rush into doing the exact opposite, or they get angry about the advice and mark you as stupid — this particularly happens to me a lot in my profession as a stripper. Bottom line is you cannot prevent someone from doing what they are going to do. Most people ask for advice to get reassured in regards to what they are going to do anyways, but when it doesn’t work out like this they will void your advice, plus most people aren’t evolved enough to take advice or at least incorporate it into their decision. People do whatever they want to do, and therefore they should take responsibility for their actions but most of the time they don’t, instead they blame someone else, possibly the person who gave them the advice forgetting that they just didn’t follow their suggestions …

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VIAGRA, THE PINK PILL, FOR WOMEN, YES OR NO

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , on June 20, 2018 by tiltdiary

And you can get it online too. All it takes is a phone call. Have we really come this far? Are we really not interested anymore in finding out why a woman has lost her libido and desire, and instead, women are willing to put their lives at risk and pop a pill to satisfy their partner or to just be able to stop looking at themselves and figuring out why sex is not a priority anymore?

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HAPPINESS ONLY EXISTS WITH SEX

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , on June 11, 2018 by tiltdiary

She looked at me and said, “You look so good. You must be having a new lover.” People assume that all the time when they see me, especially women. Looking good, being healthy, being happy seems to only exists in peoples’ minds when something from the outside has changed. Like you win the Lotto, you find the dream partner, you change the job, you are traveling the world … Most women especially think happiness can only be achieved when the right partner is finally found, and then life begins. People don’t seems to understand that change towards happiness and fulfillment can only happen from the inside out. Contentment and happiness cannot be achieved by anything that you can find outside of yourself. Life changes, gets better, and happiness is found when you work with yourself, when you make changes deep inside of yourself.

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STRIPPER IS DESIGNATED DRIVER DATE 

Posted in Customers with tags , , , , , , , , on June 2, 2018 by tiltdiary

He’s a regular at my club, and I’ve danced privately for him many times before. But tonight, he’s ready to make his move to get me to meet him outside of the club. First, he recaps that it isn’t right for a beautiful woman like me not to go out or know famous bars like the “Rainbow Bar.” He suggests to take me there. I explain that since I don’t drink it’s really pointless for me to go to a bar. Him feeling victorious, “They have great food there like pizza. I’ll take you to dinner there. Give me your phone number.” I explain again, “I only eat vegan food, so pizza isn’t really my thing.” He has a solution for this as well, “I know great vegan restaurants.” Me, “Really, like what?” He can’t think of the names of the countless vegan restaurants he knows but he’s becoming more commanding, “Give me your phone number now!” I say politely, “No, thank you.” And then he has it all figured out, “I know now. Since you don’t drink you can be my designated driver when we go out.” We went from a drink invitation to a vegan dinner all the way to me becoming his chauffeur 😳😝🙄

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