Archive for Friendship

FINDING THE RIGHT DOSE OF LOVE

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , on August 6, 2018 by tiltdiary

Often times, we can only give minimum amounts of care, love, and advice to family members and friends, because anything more is viewed as a threat, accusation, or even as an insult. Dosing kindness and love is unfortunately a delicate art and necessity.

— A.A. JONES

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RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FROM A STRIPPER

Posted in Customers, Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , on June 14, 2018 by tiltdiary

But how should we treat others? In my opinion, we should always treat others with the same respect, compassion, care, and love we wish to be treated with by others. Think about it next time when your spouse, child, friend, or neighbor upsets you. If the roles would reverse, how would you like them to alert you that you hurt their feelings or crossed a boundary.
Now you might ask yourself if I treat my customers the way I would like to be treated if I would be the customer and they instead would be the stripper. I can absolutely say that I try to treat them with the respect, care, compassion, and love I wish for. Unfortunately, most customers do not treat us strippers kindly but I refuse to give up on respect, honestly, and civility.

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CAN YOU SNEAK YOURSELF INTO SOMEONE’S HEART?

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , on February 12, 2018 by tiltdiary

While I believe you can grow into a friendship, I do not believe you can grow into romantic love. It might be possible but I cannot imagine it. Chemistry is either there or not. But I do believe you can grow out of romantic love into a friendship. Most of the time we call that marriage.

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DOES FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN EXIST

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , on September 6, 2014 by tiltdiary

I have participated in countless discussions about this subject, and I am not saying I am right. All I am saying is that I am speaking from personal experience, and this is my personal opinion. I do not believe that friendships between women and heterosexual men exist. If there is a friendship where no sexuality is involved then it’s either because the woman isn’t interested in sex, or the man will control his urges due to ethical believes (he is either married or other social aspects are holding him back). However, when a man and a woman are friends there are always secondary reasons for it (business benefits, or his wife is friends with her as well, they are training partners, and so on). If there isn’t, then the man holds at least a sexual possibility in his mind, which can be even just a simple fantasy about the possibility of a sexual encounter with his female “friend.” I have had many male friends in my life (no, not all of them knew I am a stripper), and it all went well till I pulled the trigger and made it very clear that there is no chance in hell that we would ever have a sexual encounter (and it is not easy to destroy a man’s fantasy about this, but I have developed a very powerful technique to bring my point across). The minute a man believes exactly that he will drop you like a hot potato and you will never see him again. I wonder, if gay men are more evolved when it comes to friendship with women. I suspect they are, but I don’t have much experience to talk about this subject. But when it comes to heterosexual men I am convinced the minute you take the possibility of a sexual encounter away they flee faster then you can blink your eyes.

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LETTING IT GO WHEN YOU DON’T WANT HIM ANYMORE

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , on February 8, 2014 by tiltdiary

Most people hold on to people they don’t really want anymore just because they rather not have someone else enjoy them if their time has passed with them. Friendship, love, attraction, and relationships change through a course of life. Just because there is change doesn’t mean they lose their value. Let go and let the ones you love be free even if they once belonged to you. Love doesn’t hold prisoners.

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DO STRIPPERS CARE?

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , , , , on September 4, 2013 by tiltdiary

Even in the strip club relationships and friendships form, especially when a customer comes back over and over again, yes, when he becomes my regular. People think we strippers are only interested in a customer’s money, but that is not true. Although, I choose not to meet my customers outside of the club, I still develop a relationship and friendship with some of them, and if a customer is dear to me, I take interest in his hobbies and the things that he is passionate about. I will even do research about things that are important to my customer if he is worth my attention, and I will listen carefully when he tells me what’s important to him, I will try to give objective advice, and I will try to make a difference in his life.

See, the club is not so much different from the outside world. Because if you care about someone you will care about what’s important to them, you will fuel their success, and support their dreams, and help them through challenges even if it doesn’t directly affect your life. What’s important to them makes them, and a true friend will listen and be there for you even if it isn’t a mutual interest.

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I HAVE MY PURPLE RAIN

Posted in Jones' Fantasies with tags , , , , , , , , , on June 11, 2013 by tiltdiary

lomob-2I dance at the club almost during every shift on ‘Purple Rain’, and finally, I found my purple rain. We all have desire for purple rain, and at the same time, it wakes some pain inside of us. Maybe the longing is what makes us so painful. But everything in life is about pleasure and pain, even death. But here is my purple rain and what I feel when I climb the pole on this song. Up into the sky, fearless with endless devotion. Because true friendship takes devotion and sacrifice, and most of the times this devotion will not be reciprocated. That causes pain, yet, I will devote again in the hope to find the pleasure … at least for a little time, because it’s better to get a short storm of purple rain than no purple rain at all. I have my purple rain …

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