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ME ME ME NATION

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , on August 4, 2016 by tiltdiary

Everybody always thinks they are busier, sicker, harder working, and their problems are more important and pressing than other people’s problems. Therefore everybody feels entitled to get help, yet, is too busy to offer help. It leads to a misconception of life and a false entitlement. People need to relearn to walk in other people’s shoes.

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HAVE NATURAL INSTINCTS GONE MISSING?

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , on May 26, 2016 by tiltdiary

Over the years, I have watched an interesting phenomena. For example, I have watched joggers, mothers with strollers or little kids holding their hands, pedestrians of all sorts, bike riders, skateboarders who are terrified of dogs run or drive into me and my pack of coonhounds. To me this behavior isn’t normal nor logical. These people don’t know me or my dogs. I could be some cooky lady who doesn’t have her dogs under control, or my dogs could be aggressive especially if you run or drive into them. Wouldn’t you at least use common sense when you encounter something that frightens you? Any other species will watch carefully what they don’t know or fear and preferable avoid it by changing their path, yet, human entitlement seems to push many into irrational behavior that could possibly be fatal. Watching people for many years it seems that the feeling of entitlement and inconsideration are causing most of the hurt and trouble in relationships. Humanity seems to have lost perspective, natural instincts are fading and are replaced by technology, communication happens in the cyber world and humanity seems to be getting more and more out of touch with real life situations. It seems the inflexible Asperger’s mind is becoming more and more the norm, and I am afraid this might lead to devastating consequences. Isolation, depression, loneliness, and social neglect are being fueled by the “I have the right to …” attitude, and the skill to walk in someone else’s shoes is fading.

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WHEN YOUR THOUGHTS IMPRISON YOU

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , on March 15, 2016 by tiltdiary

Humanity’s biggest limitation is that they always think others, including other species, have to think like them. Because only his/her way is the right way. We are prisoners of our own thoughts of entitlement.

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DATING THROUGH THE AGES

Posted in Jones' Fantasies with tags , , , , , , , on March 11, 2016 by tiltdiary

The handsome prince was trapped in the giant tower as he saw the young maiden dancing barefoot in the nearby meadow. He yelled, “Hey, you, I am trapped.” She just heard the echo of his voice and looked up puzzled to the tower. Him, “Hey, come here. Help me, now!” Rapunzel came a little closer because she couldn’t believe the commanding tone that was directed at her. The prince again now even more impatient and aggressive, “I am a prince, and I am trapped. I hold a fortune.” Rapunzel wasn’t impressed and thought for a moment to just run away and minding her own business, but her mother had taught her not to be selfish and have compassion for other people’s suffering. So she looked up to the tower once more. The prince finally realized that he had to be a little more charming to keep her attention. He tried again, “Hello young maiden. What is your name?” She answered suspicious, “My name is Rapunzel.” The prince again very impatient, “Are you the one with the long, strong braid? Rapunzel, throw up your hair so I can climb down and free myself from my prison.” Rapunzel though for a moment. Her mother had taught her to be compassionate and helpful to people in need, but her mother had taught her as well not to talk to strangers. The prince even more pressing now, “Rapunzel, throw your hair up. Do it now! I am a prince and I am rich. And we can live happily ever after.” Rapunzel tilted her head to the side and responded very politely, “I am sorry, your highness. I was never good at throwing things.” And she ran away, and they did not live ever happily after. Sometimes, Rapunzel thinks of the man in the tower, and she wonders if he was really a prince or just some sexual deviant jailed by the king even if he was his son.

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BETTER THAN OTHERS?

Posted in Jones' wisdom with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on June 4, 2015 by tiltdiary

Most people I meet think they are different from other people. We like to think we are better, more generous, more kind, smarter, more educated, more considerate, more compassionate, more evolved, and so on than the average Joe. We think we are fair and never hurt anybody, we are less selfish and have reached a higher level, that for we are different. Most people hold the privilege to think they are better than the rest. But I find exactly this way of thinking brings out the little Hitler in us. We lose self-awareness thinking we are safe due to being better.

Disciplines like religion, yoga, meditation, and other techniques are given to us to stay aware and fight that selfish urge but this often backfires. One thinks because she/he practices yoga or goes to church it makes them better for sure. But often it’s just a cover up.

The fact is, although, no doubt we are all unique individual, we all have selfishness as a human character trait imbedded into our DNA. Being aware of it and catching yourself when acting up on it is the only way of disciplining this selfishness and channeling it into the right direction which can be part of the necessary survival instinct and drive in order to survive society and competition. Yet, when it comes to personal relationships, watch out for your judgement. That selfish person might just hold you the mirror trying to make you aware of your own actions. There is no better, there is just the constant journey of giving your best, watching yourself, and trying to be as compassionate as possible without pointing fingers before you point at yourself.

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