Archive for emotional detachment

FREAK SHOW AT THE STRIP CLUB

Posted in Stripper Secrets with tags , , , , , , , , on August 21, 2018 by tiltdiary

Once more, the club has taught me a skill that seems to be lifesaving for any life situation: Eagle Perspective! Instead of letting outrageous behavior, rudeness, or negative energy suck me in, I stand back and watch from above. Being able to quietly observe without reacting immediately makes a big difference. Anger makes you blind. But when you’re forced to emotionally detach — which is crucial for club survival — and look at things rather analytically it gets very interesting. Humans’ outrageous behavior can be fascinating. It’s a freak show in itself. Whether you observe strip club customers, drivers on the 101 or 405, whether you see that DJ or your bullying boss trying to gain power of something minuscule, your neighbor over-water his already friend lawn, or your co-worker/co-stripper trying to sabotage you because of their lack of confidence. Start watching and you will be in for a mind blowing shit show …

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DO THE WOMEN THAT DID NOT BEAR CHILDREN MAKE THE BETTER MOTHERS?

Posted in Jones' Poems with tags , , , , , , , , on July 28, 2018 by tiltdiary

I know I will receive much judgement, criticism, and even anger from many people writing this post. I want to clearly state that I do not know the answers, and I am just shining light onto this subject I’ve been many times forced to be involved into. It happens in my own family, the grocery store, the fitness center, and the counseling sessions I provide. Often, I am unwillingly thrown into witnessing parents at the worse, and often, I think it’s caused because the adult is not capable of staying emotionally detached in order to be a fit parent. Often, simple scenarios blow up into huge ordeals at the cost of the children because the adults in their lives are behaving like the child.
With being a mother or father now a days many emotional issues are attached — I think this was less apparent for the generation of my parents but I am not sure. I feel the mothers blame the kids and hold them responsible for all the sacrifices they have to make for them. Many mothers and fathers have secretly admitted to me that they regret having kids because it jeopardizes their freedom, their body shape, their health, their sex life, their financial situation … these are not just parents that were thrown “accidentally” into being a mother or a father. These are also fathers and mothers who went for years through artificial insemination, couldn’t get pregnant, and tried everything to have that baby. And still these parents feel overwhelmed, act irrational in regards to their kids, use punishment as a regular measure, and push their kids into more and more extreme behaviors till they eventually, usually around the teenage years snap and do something extreme. That then will be excused by “puberty” but often it feels puberty is just the bucket finally overflowing that was filled with parental nonsense for over a decade. Are parents emotionally too attached to their kids to be a fair judge, to control their own emotions, and to stay the adult, or is mental illness, lack of parental education and skill responsible that more and more kids need therapy, go into suicide, mass shooting, or just turn out to be terrible misfits?
Often, when I get involved, I see and suggest simple solutions. The kids are much more open and receptive to logic than their parents. The kids still seem to think clearer and are willing to accept help than their parents. The parents are often trying to cover up their rage, helplessness, and desire for power over their kids. Both parties are desperate for help, yet, parents get caught up in selfishness and fear. The kids on the other hand reach and accept help when they feel it’s rational and comes from a place of neutrality. Can we teach the mothers and fathers of today to stay neutral, leave their personal hang ups behind, and be fair adults when it comes to their own children? Is that possible?

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